Showing posts with label Advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Advice. Show all posts

How do we face lust ?

Should know the young man and the girl that what God has revealed of disease but revealed his medication,His knowledge of his knowledge and his ignorance of his ignorance,The God who created people and knows Doakhlhm and instincts, who initiated them prescribed, then it could order the Almighty God people including not afford to do, or to forbid them from what can not afford to leave it.It is the most important means of treatment for this disease: 
1 - the power of faith:The faith in God Almighty is Assem - after reconciling God Almighty - the slave of sexual intercourse with a man's land, not the Prophet, peace be upon him says:«No adulterer while adultery is a believer ... »(Agreed),If When generalized faith in your heart, and fills your heart and your feelings, you will not dare God willing kin.Faith deter the owner of what God has forbidden.And no faith in the heart sweetness and pleasure that can not adjust the sweetness of lust and to Ztha.And faith fills the heart with love for God, the Almighty, it remains at heart but love God and love what he loves, the Almighty, be sure my brother and make sure my sister - God bless you - on a compact seed of faith in your hearts it while growing produce happiness in this world and the hereafter.Prevention before cure:Which route easier on yourself? And any two passages you choose? To unleash yourself, and open doors on Massaraha, then remain defend lust? Or close the doors and fill the excuses?The wise man, and ownership of the bag astute chooses to close the door and fill the pretext, but forensic approach.Is it any mind and follow that Islam launches consider hath God Almighty, then complains of lust and captured the heart?! Will fit your browsing magazines downlink, fallen or film sequence, then ask where to remain chaste?!! Do you want to survive and you hear the songs of love and love Fallen?!!!Young brother sister girl:If you want to survive; Fajtsroa way from the beginning, and closed the door, which comes from the wind, and you know yourselves, any road (Fellow, book, magazine, bar ....) invites you to sin and raises inherent instincts of you, say, has not 
2- A prophetic successful recipe "marriage":The Prophet, peace be upon him had given all his right, and advised each nation.Do not leave this matter without direction or a statement?God forbid, my father and mother may Allah bless him and what to leave good but upon Del, not evil, but warned him,
 3 - Fasting:While this is not feasible before the young man and woman is marriage, there is another solution: It is fast, did not think to fast three days of every month, or on Mondays and Thursdays? Fasting keeps in human willpower, patience and endurance, and arrogance on the wishes of self and all its delights.Hasten my brother and Padre sister and God helped me and you, and Strive fast as you can of days. 
4 - Be wary of that you Jawarg witness:Can you one day that Tgarv sin without use Jawarg?!!He scene is terrible and difficult situation, day pronounce these prey are the first to enjoy the pleasure of sin, one day pronounce on what was working. 
5 - Beware of the minor sins:May invite yourself for some minor indulgence "to consider, introductions ...", and evolve to being alone, no doubt that the minor is not large Kalfoahac, but:Pettiness that one despises when one meets a slave perish.Do not forget that you are in a constant battle with a formidable enemy invites you to destruction of all matter, and exhibits to Igoaúk each course you - my brother - when tolerate sin, rejoice this vindictive enemy, and has been supplying weapons to which Iqatlk.The fall into sin and Tsahlk small; removes and will no longer find sin heart Vtatad, even located in what is the largest of them.
6 - Are you alone?When the door closed on yourself and no one sees you,, moving Kuamn lust in yourself and looking for a break, remember that God sees you, Flo conjured up this fact, what had dared to sin.
 7-Pray weapon of the believer:It does not betray weapon in calamities, resorted to slave especially at a time of distress and anguish 
8 - remember the bliss of Paradise:Allah has prepared in heaven for those who obey what no eye has seen, no ear has heard, nor the heart of man, and Atnam Paradise with other colors bliss and Osnavh, but what people want there gets him.And than Atnam by the people of Paradise Etienne these desires, but there is great difference between what in this world and the hereafter, and I preached with whatever his rhetoric to describe this paradise.


Advice to Wives on a way to Improve Their wedding Life consistent with Islam

Why do marriages fail?
Satan is that the best destroyer of marriages and hates married couples the foremost. His best feast is once he manages to separate a family unit. He causes doubts between them and build it appear that there's no solution of a specific state of affairs. supernatural being is incredibly a lot of tuned in to peoples' weak spots, and then approaches them from these angles. those who hear Satan's whisperings follow him rather than following Allah's commandments and sleep in worry and anxiety. Supreme Being states that only 1 form of worry which will lead an individual to the correct path is that the worry of Supreme Being. The Qur'an proclaims that Supreme Being, the owner of Infinite data, can offer individuals the power to tell apart between right and wrong if they worry Him. this is often one among the foremost vital characteristics for an individual to own. Discerning those who have religion grasp the distinction between right and wrong, and therefore don't seem to be fooled by Satan's games.

Below area unit some suggestions to wives in light-weight of Islam to keep up a contented married life:

Never Argue
--> Avoid arguments. associate argument may be a hearth within the house. Extinguish it with an easy 'I'm sorry' though it's not your fault. once you fight back, you're solely adding wood to the hearth. Below may be a excellent story that provides a pretty example of tolerance and patience that is crucial for any productive wedding. a person and girl had been married for quite fifty years. They shared everything. and unbroken no secrets from one another except that the tiny previous girl had a shoebox within the closet that she had cautioned her husband ne'er to open or raise her concerning. For all of those years, he ne'er thought of the shoebox, however in the future the tiny previous girl got terribly sick and also the doctor same she wouldn't recover. In attempting to arranged their affairs, the tiny previous man took down the shoebox and took it to his wife's side. She in agreement that it had been time that he ought to grasp what was within the shoebox.

When he opened it, he found 2 handcrafted dolls and a bag of cash totalling $20,000. He asked her concerning the contents. "When we have a tendency to were to be married," she said, "my granny told ME the key of a contented wedding was to ne'er argue. She told ME that if I ever got angry with you, I ought to simply shut one's mouth and build a doll." the tiny previous man was therefore moved; he had to fight back tears. solely 2 precious dolls were within the shoebox. She had solely been angry with him twice altogether those years of living and crazy. He nearly burst happily "Honey," he said, "that explains the doll, however what concerning all of this money? wherever did it return from?" "Oh," the tiny previous girl same, "That's the money I made of mercantilism the dolls."

Be aware of the comfort and well being of your husband.
A good Muslim spouse must always be trustworthy and sort. She ought to attempt to be cheerful and inspiring towards her husband and family, and keep their home free from something haram (haram covers all aspects of hurt, together with dangerous behaviour, abuse and tabu foods). Rasul Supreme Being - sal Allahu alayhi WA sallam - educated North American nation that any ladies United Nations agency dies in an exceedingly state wherever her husband is happy along with her, shall enter Jannah. forever treat him the means you'd wish to be treated. If you follow this rule, your wedding can have a far larger likelihood for achievement and if discarded then failure is simply round the corner.

Be Y2K compliant
Regardless of her skills or intelligence, a spouse ought to settle for her man because the head of her home offer him full respect and do his needs with a transparent conscience. She ought to take into thought the wants and skills of her husband and arrange to build him happy, though she should compromise generally. it's as a result of men area unit given an additional degree of responsibility.
Allah says: "Men area unit the protectors and maintainers [qawwamun] of girls, as a result of Supreme Being has given the another [strength] than the opposite, and since they support them from their suggests that... " (Qur'an 4:34)

--> The purpose of obedience within the relationship is to stay the nuclear family running as swimmingly as attainable. the person has been given the correct to be obeyed as a result of he's the leader and not as a result of he's superior. If a frontrunner isn't obeyed, his leadership can become invalid.

Be grateful  and show appreciation
Appreciate and give thanks your husband for what he will for the family. ne'er build him feel that he's not doing ok for the family or that you simply don't seem to be happy together with his work or his efforts, unless, of course, he's really lazy and not even attempting to supply for the family. The Prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wasallam) was reported  to own said: 'On the Day of Judgment, God won't conceive the girl United Nations agency has been ungrateful to her husband." give thanks your husband perpetually for the great things he will as this is often one among the foremost vital techniques and to be the alternative may be a characteristic of the ladies of red region

Be Careful of Your Words and maintain sensible relation with in-laws
Be terribly careful what you say once you area unit upset. generally you'll say things that you simply would ne'er say once you weren't angry. If you're angry, wait till you relax before continued the oral communication. Maintain sensible relation together with your in-laws particularly his mother. don't say something dangerous concerning his family.

Be polite kind and patient and confess your Mistakes
Treat your husband such as you would treat your succor. With our greatest friends we have a tendency to try and be polite kind and patient. With our spouses we regularly don't show these courtesies. sensible marriages need patience kindness sacrifice love understanding forgiveness and labor. Moreover, contemplate the reward within the hereafter for people who show patience:

Allah says, "Only people who area unit patient shall receive their reward fully while not reckoning (or measure)." (Qur'an 39:10)

When you build miscalculation, admit it and once your husband commits miscalculation, excuse him simply and if attainable, ne'er head to sleep angry with one another.

Be contended with what you've got and lead a straightforward life:
Don't be jealous of these United Nations agency appear to be living a a lot of luxurious life than your family. The 'rizq" is from Supreme Being (SWT). so as to develop the standard of happiness, verify those those who have but you, not people who have a lot of. give thanks Supreme Being (SWT) for the numerous blessings in your life.

Have a way of humour
Men ask for ladies United Nations agency area unit light-hearted and have a way of humour. As Rasul Supreme Being - sal Allahu alayhi WA sallam - told Jabir to marry somebody United Nations agency would build him laugh and he would build her laugh.

Pray to Supreme Being
Make dua to Supreme Being for the well being of your husband and for your productive married life. By doing this daily you'll notice exaggerated love between you and your husband.